Full accountability is one of those new thoughts that make our brains hurt because they travel over previously unused neural pathways. New thoughts like that are uncomfortable and awkward, but we get used to them with practice. Besides, to move in the direction of our goals and dreams, we don’t have to win a debate with our old way of thinking. We just need to be willing to move ourselves ahead by trying out new ways of thinking, and full accountability is one of them.
Then why wouldn’t we do that?
Well, for one thing, we all know that there are true victims in life, and we can set that up as an excuse. But we’re not talking about those kinds of victims here. We’re talking about you and me, wanting to make some changes. If we use the “I’m not in control of everything” argument to justify our own inaction, then it easily becomes one big all-powerful excuse to justify all the rest of our other excuses – the justification of all justifications for self-imposed victimhood. No thanks. Been there, done that. Time for something new.
And for another thing, once we start practicing full accountability, we can’t get away with squat. We used to be able to go mindlessly along, creating lives we didn’t want and blaming Fate or dumb luck or other people or whatever. No more. Now, when we ask why our dreams and big ideas and plans aren’t happening, the finger points back at us, and the only issue is whether we’d like the long or short version.
The short one will do, if we’re willing to act on it.
Besides, if we accept that we created the things in our lives that we now want to change, that means we have the power to create new things to replace them. That’s what we get when we embrace the principle of full accountability: we get the power to change. We’re not victims anymore. We can do this.
You hear people talk about not giving away our power. To think and act contrary to the principle of full accountability is to give away our power to change. That kind of victimhood is voluntary. Most of us learned long ago to never volunteer. How come we volunteer so eagerly for that?