June 26, 2019

Life in the Gap (Part 2): Take a Facer (Not a Bow)

Editor’s Note: This is the second in a four-part series of job search and career transition articles. Parts one, three, and four are also online.

We got inspired, we went for it. So now what? Time to take a bow while the world applauds our resolution? Nope. The bows will have to wait. What comes first isn’t a bow, it’s a facer . . . into the Gap.

The Gap is Resistance with a capital R. It’s the distance between what we have now and what we want have when our dreams come true. If we want our Big Ideas to come to fruition, we must live through the Gap, because that’s where we’re equipped to meet the challenges we need to meet and make the changes we need to make in order to finally prevail.

It’s not so bad at first, when we’re still freshly charged with inspiration. Meeting challenges is fun. We find resourcefulness we didn’t know we had. There’s a sense of triumph in overcoming. But after awhile the challenges get tougher, and it’s not so fun anymore.

Change is tough; there are a thousand reasons to quit, and sooner or later one of them is too alluring to resist. Sooner or later we hit one too many obstacles, become overwhelmed and afraid, bail out and scurry back to the safety of whatever we left, leaving our half-executed plans and unrealized visions strewn behind us.

That’s life in the Gap. No wonder people give up on their dreams.

Life in the Gap is about hitting barriers, and hitting them hard. A friend of mine calls this “crash dummy syndrome”:  you hit so many brick walls that after awhile when you hit a new one it’s not a catastrophe, it’s just another day at the office. Brick wall incoming! BAM! Go back and do it again. BAM! Do it again. BAM!

Crash dummies save lives. In the Gap, we’re the crash dummies. Is that any way to live?

It is – when the life you’re saving is your own.

Once we’re in the Gap, the only way out is through. And to get through, we must overcome not only the Gap’s challenges, we must also overcome ourselves.

[to be continued]

Kevin Rhodes left a successful 20+ years career in private practice to pursue a creative dream. Now, he writes screenplays and nonfiction and leads workshops on change for a variety of groups, including the CBA’s Job Search and Career Transitions Support Group. His latest workshop, Work With Passion: Find Your Fire and Fuel It!, was held January 10, 2012. Watch for a follow-up program this spring.
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