June 15, 2019

Life in the Gap (Part 4): Things Could Get a Little Bouncy Up Ahead

Editor’s Note: This is the final article in a four-part series of job search and career transition articles. Parts one, two, and three are also online.

The Gap is a violent clash of energies – turbulence to the nth degree.

On the one hand, there’s the energy of What We Want:  visionary, idealistic, imaginative. It puts a gleam in our inspired eye, fills us with passion, makes us reach for the stars. It’s fun to think about the new possibilities. We feel determined, purposeful.

On the other hand, there’s the energy of The Way Things Are: reasonable, established, entrenched. It doesn’t see what we see when we’re all inspired, and it doesn’t care anyway. All it knows is that there’s a right and wrong way to do things, and what we have in mind is definitely the wrong way. Sit down before you hurt yourself. You’re rocking the boat.

Throw those two energies together, and they’re like the Capulets and the Montagues crossing paths in the marketplace. There’s gonna be trouble.

What’s worse, the Gap is our handiwork. We hit turbulence when we take off in the pursuit of our big ideas. We cause it. As long as we’re moving ahead with our plans to create something new, it might get a little bouncy up ahead. (Don’t you love it when the pilot comes on the intercom and says that?)

When we move in the direction of accomplishing something new, we stress our relationships, our routines, our habitual ways of thinking and believing and doing things. We have to, because if we don’t, nothing’s going to change. That’s why, whenever we chase a new dream or goal or big idea, we also chase storms. No, more than that – we create storms. And the bigger the change we want, the more violent the storm is going to be. A little bouncy? When it comes to the Gap, it’s more like Storm-Chaser.

We can stop anytime, and it won’t be turbulent anymore. But making things calm down comes at a stiff price: we need to stop moving toward the goals we want to achieve, the new thing we want to create. Do we really want that? Of course not. We set out to change things. Giving up is a shortcut back to status quo. Been there, done that.

So if we’re on the path to change, we need to buckle up. It could get a little bouncy up ahead.

Five years ago, Kevin Rhodes left a successful 20+ years career in private practice to pursue a creative dream. He recently reopened his law practice, while continuing to write (screenplays and nonfiction) and lead workshops on change for a variety of audiences, including the CBA’s Job Search and Career Transitions Support Group. His latest workshop, Work With Passion: Find Your Fire and Fuel It!, was held January 10, 2012. Watch for a follow-up program this spring.
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